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One man’s 7-year battle with cancer yielded gratitude, a ‘thankful app’ despite the hardships

By Abby Stevens 

Nov 25, 2013, 2:20pm PST

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Even as Rich Goade faced death after a seven-year battle with cancer, he wasn’t thinking about his own pain and difficulties. He was one to reach out to others and to express gratitude for what he had.

“Even the day that he died, he was still asking people how their day was,” said Rich’s wife, Amy Goade, in an interview with Deseret News. “He was always asking them how they were doing, what their plans were, and he was dying.”

In April 2006, Rich was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer. Doctors gave him the probability of living two to five more years, but he outlived their predictions and lived seven more years. Rich died on May 2, 2013, his 41 birthday.


But during the Goade family's fight with cancer, Rich, Amy and their three daughters chose to be positive and show thanks as he worked through cancer treatments, which helped carry them through the challenges they faced.

“Everybody has trials. Everybody has tragedies,” Amy said. “That’s why we come to this earth, and we came to a place where we realized we weren’t being picked on, that this was just the deal. … And so we found something that worked for us, and that was to count our blessings and to notice what was good. … It helped us be able to enjoy each other instead of being weighed down by all the fear, it helped lift us up.”


Two years after Rich's diagnosis, the Goade family moved from Washington to Lehi, Utah. In facing the challenges that accompanied cancer, the family worked at expressing gratitude for blessings.


“I remember when he first was diagnosed, we had a month, I will never forget, it was a very dark month where we just felt like our whole world was coming down around us and all our future plans were done,” Amy said. “And I remember praying, and we both felt like we came to a place where we needed to get to work. You know that it was just kind of like, this isn’t helping anything … it’s not helping our family be strong, it’s only hurting us, and so we made a conscious decision that we were just going to go to work.”

A designer by profession, Rich worked for numerous companies, including Starbucks, Apple, Microsoft and FamilySearch. On the side, he and his brothers, Jerry and Paul, created an app called “thankful,” which allows users to record, store and share what they are thankful for. According to the app’s description online, “Numerous studies have linked counting one’s blessings to healthy and improved mental and physical health.”


Over time, family and friends who supported Rich through his struggles with cancer acquired the name “Team Goade.” The group showed support by including the hashtag #thankful in its social media use.


“We use the hashtag #thankful a lot every time that we say we’re thankful for,” Amy said. “It’s been fun to see that kind of branching out. We’ve been seeing it places where people we don’t know are using it too, and I don’t know if it had anything to do with us, but it’s been fun to see. … Maybe it could spread from there and really help people be thankful for what is good in the world.”

Rich joined The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints when he was 18-years-old. He was quick to turn to the scriptures to find comfort during his suffering, and his faith helped give him and his friends and family perspective.

“I remember Rich, he was really struggling, and he decided he was going to read his scriptures just front to back,” Amy said. “And he just, for a couple of weeks just read scriptures front to back, and that was a tool that he used over and over again. When things would get hard, he would start reading his scriptures like crazy, and that would just give him peace. … We have all this bad that’s all we can see, all this hard stuff that we can see, but there’s all this good stuff, too. And over the course of seven years, Heavenly Father really made it clear to us that there was a lot of good.”


Amy is thankful to have learned the importance of gratitude and “looking up.”


“September especially was really, really hard for me. And it was hard because I forgot to be thankful, and I didn’t even realize it until a month had gone by that … looking back I realized that I had been getting all these blessings, but I hadn’t even noticed. I didn’t lift my head up to look for them. But as soon as I started looking for the blessings, I stopped being so sad.”

Although Rich is missed by many, the attitude of gratitude he employed continues to bless those who regularly use it.


“I used to think that fighting cancer and watching Rich suffer so much was the hardest thing I would ever have to do, but I have to say that living without him has proven to be harder,” Amy said. “To say that I miss him doesn't begin to explain my feelings. We were high school sweethearts. We were married for more than 20 years. We fought cancer together for seven years. He was my best friend, my confidant, my sweetheart, my comedic relief. He made life fun. I have to fight daily to not let my grief take over.

“The blessing is that I have learned that choosing to look up and be thankful for the joy that surrounds me allows me to balance that grief with joy. It's been a common theme throughout our family's fight with cancer. We have learned that faith always conquers fear. That darkness always gives way to light. I know that to be true, and if I remember to open my eyes, lift up my head and notice, there is light all around me.”


By Madison Goade April 17, 2024
Eleven years ago, the Goade family faced an unimaginable loss with the passing of Rich Goade, the heart and soul of their household. Left behind were Amy, his beloved widow, and their three daughters, Madison, Mckenna, and Monroe, each carrying a piece of Rich's vibrant spirit within them. Where are they now?
By Madison Goade April 17, 2024
The first appearance of a plus sign in the sky occurred the day after Rich's passing . Since then, plus signs have manifested during significant events - from his funeral and memorial to family celebrations and everyday moments. On both good days and bad, the appearance of these signs serves as a poignant reminder of Rich's enduring presence in the lives of those he loved.
By Madison Goade February 18, 2024
Rosemary and Jerold Goade Sr. were blessed with the baby of their family, Richard Stephen Goade on May 2nd 1972. Rich was raised in a loving home in Seattle, on a street which was later the inspiration for the brother’s company name, Eddy Street Productions. Rich carried a certain charm that brought all those he met to adore him. He attended Saint Edwards Elementary School and later John F. Kennedy High School, from which he graduated with the title "quickest with the comebacks" in 1990. His blonde, curly locks and charming personality caught the eyes of many young ladies, but only one young lady caught his handsome hazel eyes in the end. Rich passed Amy's test and forever more they would be “Rich and Amy”. At age 18 Rich was baptized a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints by Amy's father, David Tingey, on November 24, 1990. When Amy moved to Utah to attend BYU, Rich sold everything he owned, even his car, to follow her, leaving behind his family and friends. There he attended UVSC. Later that year, Rich and Amy were married and sealed for time and eternity in the Seattle Temple, August 25, 1992. Three years later, the couple held their first baby girl in their arms, wonderful Madison. Rich was soon hired as a graphic designer at Microsoft and the family of three moved back home to Washington. In 1999 they were blessed with a second daughter, energetic Mckenna. Carpooling to work some days, Rich's brother, Paul, would ask him, "Are you ready to change the world today?" Rich adopted this mantra and began to tell his girls as they left for school to change the world. Rich left Microsoft after 8 years and went to work on the Starbucks Music Store. Soon after Amy learned she was finally pregnant again after many years of hoping, Rich was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer in April 2006. The doctors explained that he would probably live 2-5 more years. The Goade family was scared and heart broken but endured with faith. They had each other and they had the Lord who sustained them and changed them to be able to meet this challenge. Rich had his first surgery and then later started chemotherapy in August 2006. This chemotherapy caused a severe adverse reaction that sent Rich to the hospital in an ambulance with heart spasms. The next week Amy gave birth to beautiful baby girl, Monroe, and a few days later Rich had another trip to the hospital in an ambulance with heart spasms again. Monroe was born in the midst of fear and pain but she brought with her light and joy for the whole family. Monroe, who was soon nicknamed "Rosie", gave the Goade's something to smile about. Rich and his girls chose the middle name “Evangeline” for her because it means “bringer of good news” and she did. She brought happiness back to the Goade family. A year after working for Starbucks, Rich began his dream job at Apple. He was able to work remotely from Washington while he was getting chemotherapy treatment. Rich loved working on great design and he loved changing the world. Madison was 12, Mckenna was 8, and Rosie was 2 when the family, guided by God, moved to Utah and began working for the Church of Jesus Christ of Later Day Saints as a designer. To no surprise, Rich made friends quickly. Neighbors grew to be like family. Rich, through his trials, taught everyone many things: patience, long-suffering, positivity, love, gratitude, humor and so much more. Rich was an instrument in God's hands bringing people to Christ through his example. Over the course of seven years, cancer was in their lives, but it didn't take over. That's something the Goade’s always made sure of. It was the roller coaster of a lifetime. Rich endured, 4 major surgeries and a few minor ones, countless rounds of chemo, and even more miracles and tender mercies which strengthened him and his relationship with his Savior. He also read thousands of scriptures, said countless prayers, received many priesthood blessings and maintained the charm and spunk he had always possessed. Madison says - God taught us that He has a plan. He knows what is best for us and will do what is best for us. Even if we don't see it at the time He will lead us along to see it His way if we let Him. We have learned to trust in the Lord's timing: My dad lived way longer than statistics said, Rosie was born when we needed her most and Heavenly Father came when it was time to bring my dad’s spirit home. God also showed us that He places angels both seen and unseen around us to bear us up. These seen angels came in the form of family, friends, neighbors and even strangers who we lovingly refer to as Team Goade. They support us in every possible way. This gave my dad the strength to let go of needing to take care of us in this way and let him not fear for our futures. We came to learn that the Lord is even in these details. On May 2nd, 2013, on his 41st birthday, my dad's spirit left this world. Being the person he was, he defied all expectations for his passing and his life on earth simply came to a quiet, slow stop when he was called home. My dad did in fact change the world. He changed the way we love and the way we live. My dad wasn't able to serve a formal mission for the Gospel he so admired, but he did serve his Father in Heaven and he brought hundreds to Christ. Now, he walks with Him and my dad will continue to change the world. His favorite scripture, Doctrine and Covenants 84:88, reads "And whoso receiveth you, there I will be also, for I will go before your face. I will be on your right hand, and on your left, and my Spirit shall be in your hearts, and mine angels round about you to bear you up." My dad is one of His angels now. He will bear me up. He will bear all of us up because that’s the man he is. " Richard Stephen Goade leaves behind his wife Amanda (Amy) Goade, daughters Madison, Mckenna and Monroe (Rosie). His mom and dad Rosemary and Jerold Goade, his brothers Jerry (Ruth) and Paul (Lisa), sisters Erin Waltner (Al) and Kelly Kennedy-Vidacovich (Billy). He joins his angel sister Colleen Goade. 1968-1980. He also leaves behind countless aunts, uncles, cousins, in-laws, nieces, nephews, friends and all of Team Goade. 
By Madison Goade February 18, 2024
Rich Goade's 40th birthday party was a jubilant affair that transcended mere celebration to become a testament of love and camaraderie. Held amidst a backdrop of bittersweet significance, friends and family from far and wide converged to honor Rich, knowing that his time among them was fleeting. The theme, "Rich's 40 Favorite Foods," became a culinary mosaic, as each dish carried a memory or an inside joke, embodying the essence of Rich's vibrant personality. Each dish a testament to the cherished memories and shared experiences that defined Rich's existence. Against the backdrop of infectious hip hop rhythms, the night unfolded in a whirlwind of laughter and dance, a testament to the vibrancy of Rich's spirit. Yet, it was Rich himself who stole the show, his entrance marking a moment of unparalleled triumph. Summoning reserves of strength forged in the crucible of adversity, Rich embarked on a victory lap around the room, defying the shadow of cancer that loomed over him. In that fleeting moment, amidst the jubilant cacophony of music and laughter, Rich's indomitable spirit shone brightest, illuminating the hearts of all present with its radiant warmth and courage. It was a glorious celebration of life, a poignant reminder of the resilience of the human spirit, and a cherished memory that would endure long after Rich's untimely passing on his 41st birthday, only a year later. These are the foods we ate that night:
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